"What If Your Happy Ending is Hooking Up with His Best Friend?"

I overheard this the other day: "What if your happy ending is hooking up with his best friend?" And honestly, it’s a question that makes me takes sides.

My rational side: Listen, babe, this is a surefire way to board an emotional rollercoaster with no brakes, heading straight into an existential black hole. If this is not who you are, don’t let someone else push you into becoming that person. This isn’t just a one-time act; it’s a choice, and choices shape who we become. We’re all a collection of decisions, and this one could leave you feeling like you’ve handed your power over to someone else.

Revenge, as tempting as it feels in the moment, doesn’t actually return power to you. It keeps you locked in a cycle where the other person still dictates your emotions. You’re not getting your power back; you’re feeding into theirs. I get it—it’s brutal to even be in a situation where this thought crosses your mind. It speaks to the heartbreak and betrayal you’ve experienced, and that pain is real. But girl, you can live it up far away from that mess. Trust me. I’m telling you. TRUST ME.

Here’s a real talk moment: don’t let anyone touch you—physically or emotionally—out of anger, hate, or revenge. Our bodies remember. You don’t want to train your brain or/and pussy, to associate sex with negativity. That’s not the energy you want to carry forward. Liberate yourself from that weight. You deserve better than bad vibes wrapped up in a so-called “power move.”

When you’re feeling low, when all you want is to be noticed by him, remember this: when did the manipulation start? When did you first look the other way, ignoring your boundaries, and why did you feel you had to? More importantly, why did he put you in that spot to begin with? Take that moment and realize: you don’t owe anyone your dignity. Read that last phrase again. Please.

Now, for my YOLO side: okay, but is he hot?

Please. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE YOUR DIGNITY.